Tear Down, Why?

GOD is the architect and his words and the lessons we learn is our foundation. -DW
   So far in my life I have met only a handful of women that actually encouraged and empowered me to go for my dreams, step out on Faith and to keep going despite people that have tried to discourage me.

    I will be 24 years old next month May 5, 2013 and so far I have met more women that were selfish, discouraging and non empowering. I understand we all want to make something out of our lives, and Live a life with Purpose. A lot of women are focused on competing with each other, that instead of this being a beautiful journey they become miserable, envious, hateful, and try to put others down because they are not where they want to be. Most Women see the progression, success, of other women and they get upset because they want to be there. The progression can be mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually, and the bad feelings they have fester into jealousy. A lot of Women have to realize that everyone, I mean EVERYONE has a journey. It could have taken that person years to get where they are, went through so many trials, had periods of discouragement, but they still managed to make their dreams a reality. Everything is a process, nothing worth having, or worthy doesn't happen over night it has to be built the right way.

   All you can do is focus on your growth, GOD, your journey and enjoying it along the way. Instead of being envious, or jealous how about asking for help. Don't be afraid to ask GOD for some help, clarity, direction and how to get help from others. Sometimes you won't get help from others, GOD will show you how to help yourself. I actually experienced that myself, I was looking to GOD for the help of others because I didn't think I was capable of doing it on my own. One day I started playing around in adobe graphics designs program and I made my own T-shirt designs and also made a logo for Queens of Purpose. Yes I was super, stoked and of course I had to share what happen, GOD is so awesome. So Don't be afraid to ask GOD for help. In the bible it says ask and you shall receive, if you believe that your prayers will be answered you will receive it (Luke 11:9, Matthew 21:22) I can't say that it will happen on that day, the next day, week, or month but what I can tell you is that it will be answered.

   I can count on one hand how many Women that actually helped me as much as they could, giving advice to help me go for my dreams. It came a point where I had to stand on my own, work and keep Faith that GOD would show me what I needed to do. I prayed every night and day for help and I thought it would never come but that's when GOD would place someone in my life and really they were already there but GOD gave me clarity to see that. Many times I asked Women for help, not physical help but help point me in the right direction, for a little advice. You know what they did? Those women either ignored me, or instead of giving me a list of pros & cons they flat out tried to discourage me by giving new all the cons of pursuing my dreams.

  Then I started thinking if it was so bad, then why do they have their business, what made them keep going if pursuing it was such a bad thing. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks these women were afraid to help because they were scared of it stopping their business, so then they went into competition mode. A good friend of mine, she is a fashion blogger Tamisha Monet of www.theurbanclassboutique.com Blog said " by me helping, it doesn't make me feel I will lose sight of my business, or my goals. To many women think that by helping other women it's going to stop their business."

  In reality when you help others you help yourself unintentionally. You have just built a lasting relationship as a friend, and possibly in the future a business partner. We must Empower one another, Encourage each other, and inspire others to go after their dreams, the Purpose GOD has for them. We all have a Purpose and within our Purpose we should always Encourage others. Helping your sister won't stop your shine, it will just make it that much brighter.
 
   There is no where to go but up, so hold your head up and keep going Ladies.

Peace & Blessings Queens
DW

Sincerely Purposeful Queen

I've been in relationships before never giving myself time to heal. I never gave myself time to really get to know me, because I was afraid of what I would see. There were times I did things I really didn't want to do to keep my "boyfriend " happy a lesson I had to learn on my own. No one could tell me anything. Being naive got my heart broken a few times and I always felt as If I was not worthy of being loved. I felt like everytime I thought it was love there was always a wake up call. Meaning everything wasn't as good as it seemed. The biggest heartache I experienced was with a guy I was in a relationship for a year. When I thought about it over the years I realized JESUS kept me from an even greater heartache.

When I started building my relationship with Christ our relationship became rocky, well let's say what I couldn't see before was becoming more clear. I told my "boyfriend " I was getting baptized, but he seemed to not really care, I thought he would be Happy for me because it was important to me but I was sadly mistaken. The day of my baptismal ceremony my family was there for the morning service and for my ceremony, my "boyfriend" came late and left early. Right then I should have let him go but again I was being so naive. When I talked to him and told him that I was going to be celibate he nearly lost it. Two weeks after that conversation he broke up with me, and I was devastated. I felt like I wasn't worthy, like it was something wrong with me and I cried all night. I called my spiritual mom and she gave encouraging words and prayed with me but she told me I needed to call on JESUS and that's what I did. He told me that he had me covered.
The next morning I felt a bit down, but somehow I knew it was going to be Okay.

I know we all struggle with our own heartaches, and insecurities, but Don't let that keep you from GOD. After that breakup, a few months went by, I was doing well but I stumbled a few times and I felt guilty for a long time. I was scared of being lonely and I made my way back into another relationship. Instead of using wisdom and listening to GOD I did my own thing. I became pregnant with my beautiful daughter, right then I had an Epiphany, really it was GOD he said I no longer could think about myself I had to make a change not only for myself but for my daughter.

I knew my daughter needed me to be a positive role model, head on straight and I had to keep her covered. I knew the only way of doing that was really seeking the love of GOD instead the love from a man. There was more growing I needed to do. I cut off relationships with her father and unintentionally cut off friends but I knew it needed to be done. My life was empty but know I had my daughter and JESUS made me whole again. Jesus became my strength,  and over time my Peace and joy. I needed more of JESUS and less of me, everytime I tried to do it on my own, or thought I could do it on my own I would just stumble. The only love I knew that was unconditional and true was the Lords love. So I took a vow of celibacy, when I was three months pregnant. Since having my daughter I've grown so much. I've been tempted so much, in so many ways and when I get close to compromising myself GOD always shows up on time. GOd told me "I have so much in-store for you, just wait patiently." GOD said "you're my daughter and you are worthy to be loved, I have someone just for you, to do kingdom work with you, but I have to build both of you up so you'll be ready." Whenever I am feeling tempted I look at God's word and His promises 1 Corinthians 10:13 The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And GOD is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, He will show you a way out so that you can endure.

Many times I thought I would fail but GOD always gave me a way out.

In the past sometimes I wanted to talk to my old friends and family about being celibate and about getting to know themselves, but I felt they wouldn't receive me as much as a stranger would. They would look at me like "Girl nobody wants to hear that"  I started feeling guilty and feeling as if I should repent because I didn't take the opportunity to share JESUS with them. A lot of times I just kept to myself because nobody really understood my journey, and they still won't. All I could do was be an example, and pray for them. I learned to walk around unashamed of my relationship with JESUS. I realized JESUS is never ashamed of me so I walk around a lot bolder. I am willing to share JESUS and my testimony with anybody that will not only hear it but listen. Regardless of the pain you may endure Ladies I want you to know it will never last. JESUS is ready to heal and make you over. When you focus on your relationship with Christ, you won't ever give another man the chance to hurt you. Taking a vow of celibacy the second time around and actually staying committed has helped me to grow so much. Yes, it has been a struggle but it also taught me to love myself first and give myself time to heal from old wounds and past hurts. Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

You were placed on this earth, created to be more than eye candy, video vixens, strippers, prostitute/hoes "wifey", side chick, main chick, dime, Oh yeah and bad b*tch. You were created with a beautiful Purpose, to be an amazing Woman, intelligent, Woman of GOD, an all around encouraging wonderfully made person. I know in this day and age with so many things going on, new trends it's hard to keep up but GOD says "Don't try to keep up with the world, you only need my approval." When you seem insignificant remember Romans 12:2 Don't copy the behavior and customs of the world, but let GOD transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Walk boldly in Christ, Praise him for who he is, love yourself, get to know you. Know that you have a Purpose and remember you are so worthy. GOD love is real, look at the grace and mercy He has shown us. Ephesians 2:8 GOD saved you by His grace when you believed. And you can't take credit for this, it is a gift from GOD.
              
                  Sincerely brokenhearted girl
                      Turned Purposeful Queen

Peace & Blessings Queens
DW

Fitness M.O.M.s In the Park

Hey Ladies In the Sacramento and surrounding areas, that are mommies, want to workout but DON'T have the motivation join my sisters and I for Saturday, Sunday or both days to workout in Jefferson Park. There is No fee, just bring water, lots of energy and POSITIVE attitude, also make sure to wear COMFORTABLE shoes, and clothing.
Fitness M.O.M.s
Motivating Other Mom's, I am not a fitness guru, I am a mom like you with Extraordinary goals, ideas and BIG DREAMS, and I have a desire to be healthy, get in shape and meet new people and motivate on the way. It's not about making money, but about really having common ground and creating an empowering atmosphere, and helping each other reach our goals, reaching beyond our comfort zones, it's a transformation.

For our Mommies to be, there will be walking involved, light stretching, yoga friendly poses for you and baby. If you feel the need to sit down take a rest do so please we do NOT want you to over exert yourselves. What we need from you all is the same as above, COMFORTABLE shoes and clothing, water, energy, and a positive attitude.

This group was inspired by the weekend workout my sisters and I did, and it was lots if fun! We pushed each other to keep going, it was much needed motivation. Starting next Saturday which is April 13, 2013 @ 10:00 a.m. we will meet, and every weekend after that, Sundays will be different we can all try to meet in the after noon 12:30-12:45 p.m. Throughout the week you do your regular routine, and when we come back to meet on the weekends we can share what worked for us and what didn't work for us.

If you wish to contact me email me and I will give you my number dwils.ucb@gmail.com
Ladies that are not in the area I suggest you get you a partner that will help you stay motivated or find other mommies, like yourself, get together and workout!